Not to be indelicate, but 99.99999% of human sperm is wasted. How hard is it to get some?
Fertility experts say women are waiting for months if not years for donor sperm as a shortage intensifies.
And they say if the government does not make a decision soon on foreign imports of donor sperm, they will make their own decisions.
A 38-year-old Aucklander RNZ has agreed to call Melissa is over the moon about her rambunctious, loud little Māori boy.
Melissa, who’s part Māori, began trying to have a child at age 27 with her female partner through donor sperm, but faced endless difficulties.
These included two miscarriages and commitments by potential donors who later changed their minds.
[…] Then, a fertility clinic aware of her deep desire to have a Māori child matched her up with the only Māori sperm donor they had.
Now, at home now with her 15-month-old, she still can not believe her luck.
“This is almost a miracle situation, you know. This is so uncommon … to find the Māori donor, even more uncommon to find a donor that is willing to have contact prior to the child turning 18.”
Sperm donors must not receive payment and must agree to be identifiable to their offspring when the child turns 18.
It’s a remarkable sign of the times that the tried and true method of getting pregnant is so beyond people. I mean… I want to be a lesbian and a mother… so…
Richard Fisher of Fertility Associates said the situation was getting worse.
“Even in the days when we had relatively low demand [for sperm donors] we could never keep up with that demand, and now there is an increasing demand, particularly because that is coming from single women and lesbian couples, it’s becoming even more difficult.”
Both specialists said New Zealand donors were the best because children then had the best chance of contacting their fathers when they turn 18.
The Advisory Committee on Assisted Reproductive Technology (ACART) told the government last year foreign sperm and eggs should be allowed into New Zealand under the same rules that apply to local donors.
Dr Gudex said it must be considered, and urgently, but overseas donors were also not ideal because they were more more difficult to track down as the years went by.
“And so that’s not the first choice, that’s not the preference. So I think whatever we can do to raise awareness is really important.”
He said if the government took much longer, clinics would make their own decisions.
“The clinics have been hesitant because we like to be responsible and we like to err on the side of complying with the legislation, but yeah if we have no other choice then we’ll obviously get careful legal advice.
There is something in me that thinks it’s great that a woman wants to have children and love them deeply and guide them on their way to a full, happy and productive life.
But there is something else in me that wonders why someone who is single or lesbian wants to have all that without the most natural act of the world being involved in the process.
If you are lesbian and you aren’t going to take one for the team, or if you are single and you aren’t going to want to be in a relationship to have a child… haven’t you just disqualified yourself from nature itself?