Growing old disgracefully.
Is George the one on the left or the right?
What’s the big deal about growing old disgracefully. How about growing old with dignity and decorum. We complain about youths antics but we show them that being ‘disgraceful’ is OK – children learn what they live and see.
Yes we can still pretend to be 20 if that is one’s wish, even though the body tells us it isn’t, and do fun stuff but why does wearing a red hat and/or going out and doing outrageous things suddenly become the in thing to do and OK because we’ve been around a while?
Like women being able to work was a great initially but now it has become so that if you don’t you are considered lesser. Growing old and just sitting on the porch, watching the world go by and perhaps passing on accumulated knowledge of age is now passe. I’ve gotta be hip, cool, down with it and act as if I’m 20 or else somehow I’m lesser also.
I’ve never thought of it that way. I’ve always said I’ll be the tragic old lady in the leopard print mini skirt, but equally, I respect elderly who look and own their age. There’s not many kids these days who have real “grandparent” looking grandparents, I guess a lot are younger grandparents but we now also have the means to look younger. We do really have an issue about aging in our society and we certainly don’t respect and cherish all the knowledge our seniors can contribute. A lot of times we just want to put them out to pasture.
Agree completely, but I think the good message is that just because you’re old doesn’t mean to have to stop having fun. Fun can be had with dignity and decorum.
And wine, music, laughter (the best medicine).
Paulo Coelho’s epitaph will be: “He died while he was still alive”.
I’m doing my best to live to that: to not surrender to age and negative thinking.
My very conformist and compliant persona has all my life covered up, wrapped over and kept inert a little spark of dissent that beats deep within and shouts Let me live if I inadvertently lower my guard. It wants to do things that that were never done because there was no misspent youth. It still seeks freedom and adventure, it wants to dabble in unholy alliances, it desires to devolve itself of worldly responsibilities, try communal living, ride trailbikes down beaches, have pink hair and black fingernails. It whispers in my ear the Jenny Joseph’s poem “When I am an old woman I shall wear purple” and stops at the line “But maybe I ought to practise a little now?”
I call the spark, My Little Rebellion, it doesn’t seek to be hip or cool or 20. But it’s there, like an imagery friend and every day it gets a little more pressing, there’s a greater urgency, it gets harder to ignore and very wearying to continually coverup. It will not go gently into the night just yet. What harm is there in freeing My Little Rebellion? Just a tad, give it a taste of freedom. I won’t start disgracefully; I don’t do tacky. Perhaps I”ll emulate Jenny and buy a red hat which doesn’t go and doesn’t suit me. And join the Red Hat Society.
Nothing wrong with what you want to do and those that want to go ahead.
What I just don’t like is
a) the ‘disgracefully’ part of the whole idea (or what that means to me)
b) that ‘growing old disgracefully’ is almost becoming compulsory
c) that youth has become the be all of everything. “60 is the new 40”. No it isn’t, 60 is 60 and lets also celebrate whatever wisdom we may have collected along the way.
c) It’s a source of amusement to me that 60 is the new 40. Does that make 50 the new 30? Um, don’t think the 30 year olds agree with that. I remember my daughter’s horror that her 45+ year old physio clients “wear G-strings Mum. Have they got no self-respect?” A few choice phrases on beer bellies were also expressed before my sermon on tolerance and diversity kicked in.
a) and b) It’s just a turn of phrase, a way for Baby Boomers to avoid turning into their parents generation. Don’t forget we always saw our generation as different; cutting edge; the forerunners of a new era. Being old and decrepit does not apply to us, we’ll do anything to avoid it. Create new slogans if necessary. We’re told we deserve it.
A couple of wonderful thespians there, and a brilliant picture., Sir Ian’s character in Coronation Street a few years ago was very good, and a lesson in acting i believe, I don’t think Mr Stewart has reached that terraced house pinnacle just yet….
or is it John Hurt???
Is it the actor who played Captain Pickard in Star Trek, can’t recall his name.
Yes it looks like him to me, Patrick Stewart.
Looks like Sir Ian McKellen to me.
Google Images agrees with you.
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