Right up top, we’ll acknowledge that Scarlette could’ve done things a lot better.
She shouldn’t have danced for the Chiefs without security. She shouldn’t have allegedly brokered extra payment for extra jobs. She shouldn’t have taken a single step closer to them when she realised these boys were as drunk as she claims they were.
If Scarlette was the owner of a house, she hasn’t been responsible. She’s left all the doors and windows open and then gone out for half the day.
When she’s come home to find her place burgled, few of us are all that sorry for her because few of us would be that careless.
All the female neighbours have shuffled out in their dressing gowns and slippers to tell Scarlette it’s her own fault.
But, hang on a minute. What about the burglar in this analogy? Are we saying the burglar was well within his rights to try the door handle, let himself in and help himself to the TV, laptop and a quick bath?
As careless as we think the homeowner is, none of us would make excuses for the criminal. You wouldn’t have talkback callers phoning in to say, “Oh well, burglars will be burglars”. Or, “if you leave your doors wide open, what did you expect from red-blooded burglars?”
This isn’t a country where people tolerate burglars as a bit of a hassle when they’re drunk, but otherwise really good at what they do and pretty nice guys. By the same token, it shouldn’t be one where people make excuses for rugby players or men in general.
In fact, if I was a bloke I’d be pretty angry at women who have the audacity to call talkback and suggest that men go from human beings to aggressively aroused male ostriches at the mere sight of a wiggling bum.
That’s some reverse sexism from you ladies right there. Somehow women have the ability to exercise self discipline but that Y chromosome reduces men to something close to drunk, sex-crazed toddlers who must touch what they see.
This is on Louise Upston. As the Minister for Women she needs to man up. It’s not about telling dudes what women expect. It’s become clear it’s about telling women what they should expect.
Instead of saying it’s “not appropriate” for the Women’s Minister to comment, Upston should take a lesson from her Beehive senior Judith Collins.
When asked who was to blame for high burglary rates, the Police Minister responded, “The main contributors to the burglary rates are criminals”.
The same thing goes for men who want to grab when they’re not invited to.
Right up top, we’ll acknowledge that No means No.
But Scarlette had sold access to her body to a player for $50.
The act was seen by other players who were unaware there was a commercial agreement in place for only one player to experience this extra.
This caused an expectation which can not, under any circumstances, be considered unfair or unreasonable.
And yes, it took Scarlette a while to get it through their thick drunk skulls that it wasn’t a free-for-all.
Scarlette knew what she placed herself into. She has enough experience to know. In fact, she has such a level of self confidence in her own abilities, she went there without security and relied on her own reported martial art skills to keep a room of fit, drunk, testosterone fuelled men at bay.
As for the burglary analogy, these is a huge onus on the house owner/occupier to take all reasonable steps not to get burgled in the first place.
Try and get your insurance company to pay out of you leave your house open and unattended and it is ransacked.
Similarly, try and get your insurance company to pay out when you take your car onto a beach for a joy ride and you get stuck in the sand and the tide comes in.
By failing to take reasonable precautions, almost all the blame lies with Scarlette.
– Heather du Plessis-Allan, NZ Herald
“sex-crazed toddlers”? Really?