“On stage, I make love to 25,000 different people, then I go home alone.”
The Little Old Woman Who Said NO To Power
Senator for Florida,Marco Rubio, is my face of the day. I want to vote for this guy and I don’t even live in America. If only we had an MP like him here in New Zealand prepared to address the elephant in the room.
I watched his eloquent and heart felt speech yesterday on this blog and was so impressed with him¬† that I wanted to bring both him and his speech to the attention of those of you who have not yet had the privilege of watching it.
Rape culture is a term that was coined by feminists in the United States in the 1970‚Äôs. It was designed to show the ways in which society blamed victims of sexual assault and normalized male sexual violence.
I do not believe that NZ has a culture where women get blamed for rape. Not at all. Blaming women for men’s actions is typical of backward Patriarchal countries where women have little power and are forced to dress modestly least they cause men to lose control. India has been in the news lately a lot for that kind of thing. Simply being a woman on a bus without your male relatives to protect you appears to be justification enough for a gang rape over there. Now that is a rape culture!
Is male sexual violence normalised in New Zealand? No it isn’t. No one considers it normal to beat their wife or girlfriend in New Zealand. Yes some do but mainstream New Zealand does not have that view that it is ok or normal, not at all. To not only beat but to also rape, only hard core Gang members or sick Men from Patriarchal countries would ever dare to express the view that that was acceptable.
Emilie Buchwald, author of Transforming a Rape Culture, describes that when society normalizes sexualized violence, it accepts and creates rape culture. In her book she defines rape culture as…..
a complex set of beliefs that encourage male sexual aggression and supports violence against women. It is a society where violence is seen as sexy and sexuality as violent. In a rape culture, women perceive a continuum of threatened violence that ranges from sexual remarks to sexual touching to rape itself. A rape culture condones physical and emotional terrorism against women as the norm . . . In a rape culture both men and women assume that sexual violence is a fact of life, inevitable
Violence sexy? Violence in action movies and online games is directed towards combatants in battle scenarios. Apart from a few exceptions like the car racing game where hookers and drugs were part of the game, violence is depicted in battle against combatants not against women. In films, sex is certainly way more explicit than it used to be. However romance is still popular and I cannot imagine any sex symbol lasting long in the industry if he played a character in a love story who raped or beat his love interest. No one in NZ would find that sexy. They would find it disgusting. Most women in NZ expect respect and love, not violence and the majority of Men in NZ want the same in return.
The website Force: Upsetting the Rape Culture explains how rape culture is the images, language, laws and other everyday phenomena that we see and hear everyday that validate and perpetuate rape.
Rape culture includes jokes, TV, music, advertising, legal jargon, laws, words and imagery, that make violence against women and sexual coercion seem so normal that people believe that rape is inevitable.
When was the last time you heard a rape joke? If you are like me it would be never. When people have made rape jokes in America they get attacked on Twitter, on Facebook and in the Media. We have a very politically correct culture in NZ and it is hardly a breeding ground to allow rape jokes, images of rape, or laws that make it easy for a rapist to get off.
Yes, rape happens in New Zealand. Yes, we do have nasty examples of masculinity like the so called Roast Busters. What we do not have is a culture of rape. At least not by the definitions quoted above.
Today I want to make a point about Facebook and privacy. It is a lesson I tried to teach my students. If you do not use the privacy options available to you anyone at all can access your private photos. Weirdos, prospective employers and any one at all who has access to the internet.
When researching this post I found many examples of foolish teens who had photos of themselves doing gang signs, drinking, doing drugs etc. However that was just too easy.
So I decided to play guess who instead. GUESS WHO is the face of the day from their posts on their facebook page. It is a person heavily involved in politics. That is all I am prepared to reveal. To make it really hard I will not include any photos of their face.
I am not a facebook friend of this person but I was able to view a few personal photos of theirs when viewing their profile which I personally would not want the general public to view if I was them. ( none of which I have included )
In case I get accused of pushing one particular agenda or another here is the counter argument against legalisation of cannabis from the Heritage Foundation.
Ken Sabet outlines what he says¬†are the¬†Seven Myths arguing that cannabis is fine.
Myth No. 1:¬†‚ÄúMarijuana is harmless and non-addictive‚ÄĚ
No, marijuana is not as dangerous as cocaine or heroin, but calling it harmless or non-addictive denies very clear science embraced by every major medical association that has studied the issue. Scientists now know that the¬†average strength of today‚Äôs marijuana is some 5‚Äď6 times what it was in the 1960s and 1970s, and some strains are upwards of 10‚Äď20 times stronger than in the past‚ÄĒespecially if one extracts THC through a butane process. This increased potency has translated to more than¬†400,000 emergency room visits¬†every year due to things like acute psychotic episodes and panic attacks.
Mental health researchers are also noting the significant¬†marijuana connection with schizophrenia, and educators are seeing how persistent marijuana use can blunt academic motivation and significantly reduce IQ¬†by up to eight points,¬†according to a very large recent study in New Zealand. Add to these side-effects new research¬†now finding that even casual marijuana use can result in observable differences in brain structure, specifically parts of the brain that regulate emotional processing, motivation and reward. Indeed, marijuana use hurts our ability to learn and compete in a¬†competitive¬†global workplace.
Additionally, marijuana users pose dangers on the road, despite popular myth. According to the¬†British Medical Journal, marijuana intoxication doubles your risk of a car crash.
Myth No. 2: ‚ÄúSmoked or eaten marijuana is medicine.‚ÄĚ
Just like we don‚Äôt smoke opium or inject heroin to get the benefits of morphine, we do not have to smoke marijuana to receive its medical effects. Currently, there is a pill based on marijuana‚Äôs active ingredient available at pharmacies, and almost two-dozen countries have approved a new mouth spray based on a marijuana extract. The spray,¬†Sativex,¬†does not get you high, and contains ingredients rarely found in street-grade marijuana. It is likely to be available in the U.S. soon, and today patients can enroll in clinical trials. While the marijuana plant has known medical value, that does not mean smoked or ingested whole marijuana is medicine. This position is in line with the¬†American Medical Association, American Society of Addiction Medicine, American Glaucoma Foundation, National MS Society, and American Cancer Society.¬† ¬† Read more »