Human behavior

PC Brigade say don’t make your kids kiss granny

Britain once again shows the stupidity of giving taxpayers money to idiots with degrees to inform us how to live.

Time for the poms to go on a Quango hunt.

Getting a reluctant child to give an elderly relative a kiss often requires some gentle persuasion.

But parents who force their sons and daughters to give granny a peck on the cheek may be doing them harm, it was claimed yesterday.

For instead of helping a child learn about showing affection, it may blur the boundaries of what is acceptable when it comes to physical contact, according to Lucy Emmerson, co-ordinator of the Sex Education Forum.

She even claims that encouraging a youngster to blow a kiss, high-five or wave to a relative instead will help them avoid future sexual exploitation.

Children need to learn from the start about the importance of consent and that ‘their bodies are their own’, she says.   Read more »

The psychology of narcissism and why all bullies are narcissists

Len Brown won’t quit, neither will Rob Ford. In both case both men have acted in an appalling fashion.

In Brown’s case he is getting off scot-free with a weak and compliant media. Rob Ford is more dogged in the face of an incredulous and questioning media. The two examples are similar and yet contrasting.

Both cases though highlight extreme narcissism and bullying behaviour.

In an earlier article for The Atlantic, I discussed the psychology of narcissism through a profile of Lance Armstrong, highlighting a similar winner-loser dynamic inherent in narcissistic relations. “The narcissist lives in a world populated by two classes of people, the winners and the losers. His constant aim in life is to prove he’s a winner and to triumph over the losers.” I described narcissistic winning as a psychological strategy for off-loading unconscious shame, a heavily repressed sense of internal inferiority: You’re the loser, not me. The narcissist therefore needs and depends upon identified losers in order to carry his shame, thereby shoring up his defensive sense of self.  Read more »

Does God Have a Personality?

Scott Adams of Dilbert fame asks whether or not God has a personality. Personally I have no idea, God has never spoken to me…not so I noticed anyway, yet I am a christian and believe…some may mock and laugh but I really don’t care, my faith gives me benefits that I find, so who cares what someone else thinks.

But Scott Adams does wonder…Does God have a Personality?

The religious view is that God has a personality of sorts, albeit one that is often unfathomable. And that means God has some sort of intentions, ambitions, goals, or whatever the God version of those impulses might be. If God had none of those impulses, he would just float in space doing nothing.

The problem with the idea that God has a human-like personality is that human personalities are nothing but weaknesses and defects that we romanticize. For example, I might be kind to others because I want them to be nice to me, or perhaps I simply feel guilty when I’m not nice. God wouldn’t have feelings of guilt and he wouldn’t need a strategy just to be loved. He would have everything he needed all the time. Logically, God couldn’t have a personality in the sense that humans do because our personalities are expressions of our defects and our DNA and our neediness.   Read more »

Erotic Republic of Iran

They might have Mahmoud Ahmadinnerjacket in charge but Iran is really experiencing a sexual revolution rather than their ongoing Islamic revolution.

Changing attitudes toward marriage and divorce have coincided with a dramatic shift in the way Iranians approach relationships and sex. According to one study cited by a high-ranking Ministry of Youth official in December 2008, a majority of male respondents admitted having had at least one relationship with someone of the opposite sex before marriage. About 13 percent of those “illicit” relationships, moreover, resulted in unwanted pregnancy and abortion — numbers that, while modest, would have been unthinkable a generation ago. It is little wonder, then, that the Ministry of Youth’s research center has warned that “unhealthy relationships and moral degeneration are the leading causes of divorces among the young Iranian couples.”  Read more »

A pat on the back low enough and hard enough never hurt anyone

Now that our politicians have allegedly ignored the vast silent majority and passed a gay marriage bill perhaps we should revisit another bill that was passed despite massive public discord:

Smacking does children no harm as long as they know it is for the right reasons and feel loved, a study has found.

Being a strict mother can be good for children as long as the discipline is tempered with a little love and affection, the researchers claim.

But parenting groups and charities have reacted angrily to the findings, maintaining that a child can suffer long term damage from physical discipline.  Read more »

To This Day – Stopping bullying

Shane Koyczan has created an anti-bullying project called To This Day.

My experiences with violence in schools still echo throughout my life but standing to face the problem has helped me in immeasurable ways.

To This Day Project is a project based on a spoken word poem written by Shane Koyczan called “To This Day”, to further explore the profound and lasting impact that bullying can have on an individual.  Read more »

Cheating at work?

The NZ Herald has an article about cheating.

“A Colmar Brunton survey has revealed that 81 per cent of adults admitted cheating of some kind – including 36 per cent cheating in their relationship and 22 per cent at work.”

I’m not sure how you cheat “at work”. It isn’t explained in the article.  Read more »

Ahmadinejad: Capitalism Causes Homosexuality

One of the worlds great thinkers, Ahmadinejad reckons that  “Capitalism Causes Homosexuality“. This will be a huge cause of concern for the likes of Andrei and other reactionary commenters on this blog who all think that poofs are a liberal cause célèbre.

Iranian President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad on Monday compared countries that accept homosexual behavior to countries that “wish to legitimize stealing.”

Appearing on CNN’s “Piers Morgan Tonight,” Ahmadinejad was asked by host Piers Morgan whether he might willing to acknowledge that “everyone is entitled to be whatever sexuality they are born to be.”

Speaking through a translator, Ahmadinejad responded by asking Morgan, “Do you really believe that someone is born homosexual?” When Morgan answered that he “absolutely” believes that some people are born gay, Ahmadinejad pressed him further.

“I’m sorry. Let me ask you this. Do you believe that anyone is giving birth through homosexuality? Homosexuality ceases procreation,” countered the Iranian leader. “Who has said that if you like or believe in doing something ugly, and others do not accept your behavior, that they’re denying your freedom? Who says that? Perhaps in a country they wish to legitimize stealing.”

You know what? …he sounds almost exactly like Colin Craig and all his apologists that comment here.

Lookism – No Fat Chicks

Oh no here is something else for the PC wankers to get all upset about – lookism

General Pants, a popular clothing chain, appears to have found a winning formula for hiring shop assistants: no ugly people.

Wander into any store across Australia and it’s likely you will be greeted by staff who are young, beautiful and hip to the hipbone.

While General Pants would hardly be alone in seeking to recruit presentable staff – and the company wasn’t immediately available to comment – would such a practise be illegal even if it did?

Employers can be sued for discriminating on the basis of gender, race or disabilities. But, with the exception of one Australian state, they are free to discriminate when it comes to physical appearance.

But you can be too good looking

The most famous case of “beauty lookism” happened in New York in 2010, when Debrahlee Lorenzana, a Puerto Rican single mother, filed a suit against Citigroup, claiming that she was fired from her job at a Citibank branch for looking too “hot”.

Cannot see what the fuss is about.  Good looking people generally earn more money in sales and therefore cost more to hire.  The market will decide what rate an employer can afford to pay.  The demand for good looking people in sales is driven from consumers buying their product.  Do not pretend it is just men driving this requirement, women like being served by young, good looking men just as much as men the reverse.  Many retail stores have become half nightclub, all hook up joints these days.  Loud booming music and even their own scent.

The litigation that will result from adding “lookism” into discrimination law will be ridiculous.

Maybe he can help out the National Party?

NZ Herald

Perhaps he might like to assist the National party, since they just seem to think that the best approach to domestic violence is to sweep it all under the carpet and have senior politicians wax lyrical about the standing of Mr B:

For the past two years, the community-minded McGlashan has been the national coordinator and an ambassador for Blow The Whistle On Violence, a nationwide campaign through which sports stars have encouraged families and communities to work together to eliminate domestic violence.