Don’t be a dud root, smoke weed

Emily Yoffe gives some advice to a couple where the wife can’t have sex unless she is drunk.

Those are some loaded questions: Is it a problem that your wife has to get intoxicated to enjoy sex with you, or should you be delighted she’s willing to get intoxicated to have sex with you? From your account, your wife was never that interested in sex, and so you are one of those couples who decided to pair up despite your mismatched libidos. I do wonder about people who think love will overcome this problem, because surely everyone knows marriage and kids rarely heat up things. I have suggested scheduling sex, which doesn’t sound sexy, but having sex turns out to be more sexy than not having it. In most of these cases, though, the partners have established that they enjoy each other in bed—they’re just not getting there often enough. I think you need to get to the primary source of your wife’s resistance. Is it more that she lies there thinking: “I’ve got to make appointments for the kids’ vaccinations tomorrow. Are we out of bread? Olivia has a recital Thursday afternoon, so I have to arrange to leave work early …”? That is, her domestic life has subsumed her erotic life, and instead of sex being a release, it just feels like another obligation. Or is she saying to herself, “I hate when he touches my nipples. I hate when he kisses my neck. I hate when he wants me to stroke his …” This inquiry into your wife’s feelings needs to be sensitive, even oblique. So I suggest you start by reading Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel and The Return of Desire by Gina Ogden.

See if these books offer insights or case histories that speak to your situation. If you find these, you can ask your wife to look at some passages. Or you can just act on what you’ve read, taking a page from other semi-moribund couples who have been jolted into bed. Since you applied my suggestion about scheduling sex, I’m going to make another one that I can’t even believe I’m advocating. Consider taking a trip together to Colorado or Washington state. For one thing, when the children are far away with their grandparents or a trusted babysitter, your wife won’t be distracted about the need to make their lunches. For another, you two can explore the new world of legal marijuana. To get aroused your wife has to shut off the competing voices in her head. So join with her and share a joint. Because this letting go will be somewhat subversive, I hope it gets you two laughing your heads off and tearing your clothes off. No, I don’t think becoming potheads is a permanent solution. I’m just suggesting that casting aside your routines and responsibilities might be a way to create some new sparks.

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Even the happy hand clappers are coming around on cannabis reform

They are calling it God’s plant, but there is growing evidence that the happy hand clappers are coming around to cannabis reform.

Jesse Stanley sees marijuana as “God’s plant.” He is one of five brothers—all alums of an evangelical high school—who grow medical marijuana from their two dispensaries in Colorado Springs, Colo. As he put it to the website FaithStreet: “God is moving in the hearts of men and women and children around the world about this plant in ways that I never would’ve imagined.”

The Stanleys got into the marijuana business in 2009 because of a cousin who was in pain and wasn’t helped by conventional treatment. Several years in, they made an unexpected breakthrough. The mother of a 5-year-old girl named Charlotte came into their dispensary seeking help for her daughter’s severe epilepsy. Wary about giving marijuana to a young girl, the Stanleys took a strain called “Hippie’s disappointment” that was low in THC (the chemical that gives the buzz), and created a new blend, high in cannabidiol (the chemical with the medical potential). Charlotte could take it in small doses.

Remarkably—the Stanleys might say miraculously—Charlotte’s seizures decreased dramatically. They dubbed their blend “Charlotte’s Web,” and started a charity called Realm of Caring, which has helped reduce the seizures of hundreds of children like Charlotte. Gaining national attention, the Stanleys even melted the heart of CNN’s Sanjay Gupta, who had been a major critic of medical marijuana.  Read more »

Legal Highs reaches lower lows

Schools are over it.  Parents are over it.  Now doctors are too

Synthetic cannabis could yet disappear from shops as health officials and doctors join forces to have it banned.

Opponents of the controversial “herbal highs” are delighted by a high-level push by government officials that could help get rid of them.

Mum Kristika Burridge said the introduction of the drugs had “created a monster” which had seen the life of her teenage son “spiral out of control” when he started using.

He dropped out of school, lost his job, left rehab and eventually got kicked out of the family home.

“It’s tearing families apart. Parents are powerless to help their own children,” Burridge said. “It’s not just in the poorer areas, it’s everywhere.”

The Sunday Star-Times can reveal that the Ministry of Health is pushing health professionals to provide adverse reaction reports on legal highs that can be used to ban them.

Time for this mistake to be undone.    Read more »

Where is Colorado’s predicted crime wave from legalisation?

Colorado legalised the sale of cannabis and the opponents predicted a massive crime wave as a result.

German Lopez at Vox explains reality vs scaremongering.

When Colorado legalized recreational marijuana sales, Denver embraced the opportunity with open arms.

The city is now home to more than 62 percent of all Colorado recreational marijuana retailers, who cashed in on $14 million in sales in January alone.

Other cities weren’t so eager: heeding legalization opponents’ safety concerns, several pushed off licensing retail sales. Some banned retail sales altogether.

“There will be many harmful consequences,” Douglas County Sheriff David Weaver warned in a September 2012 statement. “Expect more crime, more kids using marijuana, and pot for sale everywhere.”

One California sheriff went on Denver television to warn that, as a result of marijuana in his county, “thugs put on masks, they come to your house, they kick in your door. They point guns at you and say, ‘Give me your marijuana, give me your money.’”

Three months into its legalization experiment, Denver isn’t seeing a widespread rise in crime. Violent and property crimes actually decreased slightly, and some cities are taking a second look at allowing marijuana sales.   Read more »

I bet this never happens on cannabis

Once again we are seeing the folly of our politicians allowing chemical synthetic cannabis products on the shelves, but ignoring and refusing to legalise organic cannabis.

A 27-year-old Timaru man affected by legal highs smashed through his flat wall into a neighbouring flat with his head, at 2pm on Saturday.

The man made two large holes in the walls dividing two of the units in a block of flats at the corner of Wai-iti Rd and Evans St. The wall was made of double gib board.

The noise as he battered his head terrified the woman in the flat next door and she fled to another neighbour to ring police.

The man was taken to Timaru Hospital where he is receiving treatment for bruising. He will be assessed by mental health services. Charges have not been laid yet but police are considering them.  Read more »

Simple really, but one is legal and one is not

Pew Research has some interesting results in a poll that shows the public get it when it comes to cannabis vs alcohol.


If only our law makers could get it too.


[T]here has been a major shift in attitudes on whether or not the use of marijuana should be legal. As recently as four years ago, about half (52%) said they thought the use of marijuana should not be legal; 41% said marijuana use should be legal. Today those numbers are roughly reversed – 54% favor marijuana legalization while 42% are opposed.   Read more »

Prepare for legalisation: How to deal weed

Caution: Language

‘Net benefit’ from weed legalisation

There is growing evidence that there is a net benefit from the legalisation of cannabis.

A US drug reformer who played a key role in the legalisation of marijuana in Colorado and Washington state says New Zealand should do the same.

Ethan Nadalmann is here as the keynote speaker for the Pathway to Reform International Drug Symposium being held today in Auckland.

One cannabis user 3 News spoke to, who asked not to be identified, uses the drug every day for medicinal purposes.

“I spent six months unable to walk and in incredible pain, and the only substance I could find that would help was cannabis.”

Speakers at today’s symposium believe he shouldn’t have to hide.

Dr Nadalmann campaigned in support of recent moves in two US states to legalise cannabis.

“If New Zealand moves into the direction of Colorado, Washington and other states in the US, by and large it’s going to be a net positive for your society,” he says.

“And by the way, it’ll also reduce the demand for synthetic marijuana.”

Colorado became the world’s first fully regulated recreational marijuana market when it legalised cannabis in 2012. Washington state has followed, and will begin sale in the next coming months.

In New Zealand, marijuana is completely illegal – convictions for supply or manufacture can earn a jail term of up to 14 years.  Read more »

Colorado scores big in first month of Weed Taxes

If you ever needed a reason to legalise cannabis it is this.

It turned illicit products with no taxes into legal products and massive hauls of tax.

Colorado, the first US state to legalise cannabis for recreational use, made just over $2 million in tax revenue from selling the drug in January, according to its first officially released figures.

The amount was not far behind the $2.7 million the state recouped in excise taxes on alcohol in the same period and is expected to exceed that in subsequent months.

More than $14 million worth of the dug was sold over counters to recreational users in the 30 days after cannabis shops opened on Jan 1.

Another $1.5 million in tax was collected from medical sales of the drug, the figures showed.  Read more »

Marijuana “DUI” commercials… natural progression from legalisation