Housework is gay, and here is the proof.
A study called â€śEgalitarianism, Housework and Sexual Frequency in Marriage,â€ť which appeared in The American Sociological Review last year, surprised many, precisely because it went against the logical assumption that as marriages improve by becoming more equal, the sex in these marriages will improve, too. Instead, it found that when men did certain kinds of chores around the house, couples had less sex. Specifically, if men did all of what the researchers characterized as feminine chores like folding laundry, cooking or vacuuming â€” the kinds of things many women say they want their husbands to do â€” then couples had sex 1.5 fewer times per month than those with husbands who did what were considered masculine chores, like taking out the trash or fixing the car. It wasnâ€™t just the frequency that was affected, either â€” at least for the wives. The more traditional the division of labor, meaning the greater the husbandâ€™s share of masculine chores compared with feminine ones, the greater his wifeâ€™s reported sexual satisfaction.
For all you blokes out there…housework…just don’t do it.
I first noticed this while doing a yearlong training in marriage therapy. I was seeing a couple who had been married for five years and wanted to work out some common kinks related to balancing their respective jobs, incomes and household responsibilities in, as the wife put it, â€śan equal way.â€ť Over the course of treatment, the couple reported more connection, less friction and increased happiness. One day, though, when their issues seemed largely resolved and I suggested discussing an end to their therapy, the husband brought up a new concern: His wife now seemed less interested in having sex with him. He turned to her and asked why. Was she still attracted to him? After all, he wondered, why did she appear less interested now that their relationship seemed stronger in all the ways she wanted?Â Read more »
Have you seen this little lifestyle gem on Stuff today?
Check photo 2 – yep, the one with the 15 year old groom and the 14Â year old bride with her head in a sack.
What if â€śMarriageâ€ť was not the auto-default setting for human relationships? Sure it seems to be the â€śidealâ€ť most are conditioned to accept â€“ even from a young age, but remaining â€śsingleâ€ť and capable/enabling of brief, intense liaisonâ€™s between consenting adults should also be a perfectly valid auto-default setting also – yet the constant narrative is only about â€śmarriage & committed, monogamous relationshipsâ€ť.
In todayâ€™s world where many social norms are being out-paced by an ever-evolving and fast-moving social society, out-pacing traditional customs and tired, legislation also â€“ maybe we should re-examine our auto-default setting regarding monogamy/marriage/cheating and divorce?
Generally as a society, weâ€™re still very prudish â€“ as evidenced on TV (and especially in USA) where naked breasts are hardly ever shown in bedroom scenes â€“ let alone a naked female nipple â€“ all whilst they simulate, but never show, actual fucking. Yet, rather than be completely â€śnaturalâ€ť about various human body parts for authenticity, our prudishness is allowed to flourish under the cloak of righteous sanctimony, as we the sheeple, follow traditional customs and social mores as dictated by someone elseâ€™s sense of proprietary and morals, preordained from many generations ago. Â Read more »
Sensible advice really, pity WINZ doesn’t enforce it.
On The Huddle last night Josie Pagani went on about child poverty and I asked the question, that if people were poor why do they keep on breeding more children into poverty?
Couples should not have children if their relationship is not stable enough to merit getting married, a senior High Court judge said.
Sir Paul Coleridge said those couples whose relationship was stable enough to cope with the rigours of child rearing should marry.
But the judge, who is retiring from the bench next year after decades as a family lawyer and judge, said those who did not feel ready for children should not have them.Â Read more »
Little Johnny is being a bit silly, in a fuddy-duddy kind of way.
MARRIAGE equality is “nonsense” and children should be raised in an “ordinary, orthodox, heterosexual marriage”, former Prime Minister John Howard says.
Mr Howard was in Adelaide todayÂ bolstering support for the CoalitionÂ , particularly in Hindmarsh, which is sitting on 50/50 in the polls.
He did a good old-fashioned shopping-mall walk, where he had a ridiculous number of selfies taken with strapping young lads.Â Read more »
It looks like the UK will be the 14th country to legalise same-sex marriage.
The Queen is expected to be asked to give her approval to the Bill â€“ one of the most radical pieces of social legislation of her reign â€“ by the end of this week.
It opens the way for the first legally recognised same-sex weddings to take place in England and Wales by next summer and brings the centuries-old understanding of marriage as being solely between a man and a woman to an end.
Peers gave their assent to the third reading of the Governmentâ€™s same-sex marriage bill without a formal vote after a short debate in the Lords, also backing plans for a review of pension arrangements for gay couples.
Unless MPs object to the bill at the eleventh hour during a short Commons debate set to take place on Tuesday, it is expected to receive royal assent within days.Â Read more »
Yesterday I blogged about the pommy bastards who will actually be bastards by 2016.
Now the explaining has started…and the debate for marriage equality has barely even started in the UK do the “filthy gays” can’t be blamed for the demise of marriage this time.
This week, the Office for National Statistics predicted that most children in 2016 will be born out of wedlock. In 2012, 47.5 per cent of births were such; in 1988 it was 25 per cent; in 1979, 11 per cent.
This is a huge cultural change within one lifetime (yours, mine, those childrenâ€™s); such changes deserve sociological inspection. If we donâ€™t measure outcomes, then we canâ€™t know, in any proper sense, whatâ€™s happening.Â Read more »
According to official figures pommy bastards will most likely be bastards by 2016.
One thing for sure is you can’t blame gayÂ marriageÂ for this…it hasn’t yet been passed in the UK.
The proportion of children born to unmarried mothers hit a record 47.5 per cent last year, according to the Office for National Statistics. The figure has risen from 25 per cent in 1988 and just 11 per cent in 1979.
If the trend continues at the current rate, the majority of children will be born to parents who are not married by 2016. Â Read more »