Marriage

Let’s talk about marriage

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Nicholas and Rafaela Ordaz, from California, had a double party last weekend to mark their 82nd wedding anniversary and Nicholas turning 102.

When we read about couples who have been married for a long time they are rarely investigative, in-depth articles. I wish these would be written as we would all benefit from learning the secrets of a long and successful marriage. Unfortunately stories like these tend to be summed  up with a flippant few words. In the case of the above couple, the  secret of their success was distilled down to…

respect, affection and not sweating the small stuff.

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In today’s throwaway society we need more of a guideline than that. Marriages have gone the way of food. No longer do we expect full course meals; we are happy to settle for takeaways.  When Cam and I got married he mentioned in his speech the statistics for marriage. The odds were not in our favour.  He stated his intention to beat those odds.

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We had both attended friends’ marriages before our own. What surprised both of us was the content of their vows. One line that stuck with me was the vow to ‘walk beside you in life’.  What did that mean? What kind of promise was that? I was only 23 but I knew that it would take a lot more than walking beside someone in life for a marriage to make it. In our vows we promised to turn every difficulty into a stepping stone to a deeper love. They were brave words but ones we never lost sight of, though we did forget them for many years and focused on just surviving instead.

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Face of the day

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Today’s face of the day is a sex doll who was married to a terminally ill 28 year old Chinese man.

A Chinese man with terminal cancer has married a sex doll because he didn’t want to leave behind a bereaved widow.

The man is said to have wanted to experience the full splendour of a wedding before he died, after being diagnosed with cancer, but didn’t want to leave a human being struggling to cope with his loss.

The ‘newly-weds’ appeared in a series of surprisingly tender wedding photographs: hugging in front of a sunlit window, reflected romantically in a shadowy mirror and staring lovingly into each other’s eyes.

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A tragedy? Sure. But I can’t help feel he dodged a bullet at the last minute

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Still has some bugs to work out then

Normally losing your brand spanking new wife to suicide would be a tragedy, but I think this guy won the lottery

A newlywed wife whose husband complained she spent too much time on social media hanged herself after he confiscated her phone.

The woman, identified only as a 20-year-old named Aparna from the Kerala region, became upset following a row with her husband about her constant use of Facebook and WhatsApp. Read more »

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Mary L. Tabor and Del Persinger. Married 26 years PHOTO -realsimple.com

 

Today’s faces of the day are a real couple who faced serious struggles in their marriage and emerged stronger and happier in the end. Some times you have to lose something in order to value it again. It is inspiring to read about ordinary couples who almost lost each other but found a way to re connect and get back to each other.


Mary was still in her nightgown and robe, sipping a cappuccino in the kitchen of the Washington, D.C., brownstone she shared with her husband, Del, when he walked in and announced he wanted to live alone. They had been married for 21 years.

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Social Liberalism has Polygamy in its sights

Whenever we make a substantial change in our laws people talk about a slippery slope. When abortion was first legalised they said it was a slippery slope and that not only would we end up with abortion on demand but that we would end up having late term abortions. They were right. Now a Social Liberal has pointed out that by winning for Gays the right to be married we have dismantled all the arguments that previously could be used against Polygamy. Fredrik deBoer says that we are now on a slippery slope and society is heading straight for Polygamous marriage.

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UPDATED: Face of the day

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Asha* and her daughter in the garden in southern India. She is determined not to give in. ARUN JANARDHAN/Indian Express

Today’s face of the day Asha* cannot show her face. She has no status in Indian society without a husband and like another case from 2008 she has been told to marry her rapist under the misogynistic, Islamic law of Sharia. * UPDATE: I assumed this, I cannot confirm that this case was tried under Islamic law like the other case mentioned in the article.

 

Three words, no rape victim ever wants to hear, have thrown a young woman in a remote part of India into turmoil.

Having tried to put the rape of 2008 behind her and to get on with raising the little girl born nine months later, 21-year-old Asha* has been troubled by memories and disturbed by the judge’s shocking suggestion: marry your rapist.

“When the judge took his pen and wrote this, did he think even once of my plight?”, she asked an Indian Express journalist in a video interview in the garden of her one-room home.

The judge in question, Justice P Devadas of the Madras High Court, has been hearing the bail appeal of V Mohan, the man convicted of raping Asha. On June 23 he agreed to the bail request on condition that Mohan try “mediation” with Asha. Mediation in a rape case is aimed at marriage.

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Anyone who wants more than one mother-in-law deserves them

The slippery slope arguments have started in the US, where there are claims that there will be attempts to legalise polygamy because now same-sex marriage is legal, that is the next step.

Welcome to the exciting new world of the slippery slope. With the Supreme Court’s landmark ruling this Friday legalizing same sex marriage in all 50 states, social liberalism has achieved one of its central goals. A right seemingly unthinkable two decades ago has now been broadly applied to a whole new class of citizens. Following on the rejection of interracial marriage bans in the 20th Century, the Supreme Court decision clearly shows that marriage should be a broadly applicable right—one that forces the government to recognize, as Friday’s decision said, a private couple’s “love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice and family.”

The question presents itself: Where does the next advance come? The answer is going to make nearly everyone uncomfortable: Now that we’ve defined that love and devotion and family isn’t driven by gender alone, why should it be limited to just two individuals? The most natural advance next for marriage lies in legalized polygamy—yet many of the same people who pressed for marriage equality for gay couples oppose it.

This is not an abstract issue. In Chief Justice John Roberts’ dissenting opinion, he remarks, “It is striking how much of the majority’s reasoning would apply with equal force to the claim of a fundamental right to plural marriage.” As is often the case with critics of polygamy, he neglects to mention why this is a fate to be feared. Polygamy today stands as a taboo just as strong as same-sex marriage was several decades ago—it’s effectively only discussed as outdated jokes about Utah and Mormons, who banned the practice over 120 years ago.

Yet the moral reasoning behind society’s rejection of polygamy remains just as uncomfortable and legally weak as same-sex marriage opposition was until recently.

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Muslim sense of humor

Some of you will recall a post I did about a website called Happy Muslim families. Since I visited it and downloaded some Pdfs containing tips to help husbands and wives have a happy marriage I have been receiving regular newsletters in my in box.

My latest newsletter is too good not to share. It provides we infidels with an insight into this chaps sense of humor and the reality of how easy it is for a Muslim man to divorce his wife or control and cower her by threatening divorce.I wonder if the female New Zealand converts to Islam featured in the Herald on Sunday are aware of their new diminished rights and status under Islam?

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Irfan Ullah Khan Co-Founder Happy Muslim Family

 

This is one of the funniest and rare stories about the people
who threaten with divorce.

In one of their conversations, a man told Khaleefah Ar-Rasheed: “I was informed that an Arab had divorced five women in one day.”

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This is the man we are trusting with the future of electric cars?

Cock tax is evil and men are stupid.

But none are more stupid than Elon Musk who has divorced his wife for the second time.

When the South African billionaire Elon Musk split up with his wife Talulah Riley for the first time, he told the whole world.

“It was an amazing four years. I will love you forever,” the entrepreneur tweeted to the British actress in January 2012. “You will make someone very happy one day.”

Eighteen months later, that happy person appeared to be him as the couple tied the knot again in July 2013.

Yet the rekindled romance did not last. On Wednesday – the day many people make vows for the coming year – the couple officially split up for the second time. Mr Musk filed for divorce in a Los Angeles court on New Year’s Eve.

The couple said they were splitting amicably and that Mr Musk agreed to give Riley $16 million in cash and other assets as part of a financial settlement, according to a joint statement. The divorce papers said property would be split based on a prenuptial agreement.

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You know the Bible story about Jesus’ life but did you know Muhammad’s love story?

Satire is at its best when it is based on fact.Everything in this mocking video is true but it leaves out the people he killed to get the wives he wanted.In comparison Jesus didn’t kill anyone and he certainly didn’t make pedophilia a part of the Christian religion (even though sadly there are many cases of pedophilia in almost all Christian religions.) Islam however allows child brides even in today’s modern world and my recent article on Great Britain showed how child brides there do not get protected from Pedophilia like Non Muslim British children. Their forced marriages are actually recognised by the British government who allow their adult husbands to rape them at will.

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