What’s worse than corruption or cheating for politicians?

For a politician it is pretty bad to be accused of corruption, worse of cheating like Len Brown.

But there is something that voters take more seriously than both of those…hypocrisy.

Quinnipiac University did a fascinating — and remarkably well-timed – poll in which they created a fake Congressman (James Miller a 53 year old married man with 2 kids) and then asked voters how they would react to various piece of information about Miller. Those tidbits ranged from his carrying on an extramarital affair to his hiring of a family member unqualified for a job.  And, by a somewhat wide margin, the hiring of the family member was seen a a far more egregious — and fireable — offense than cheating.

Just one in four (24 percent) of voters say they would “definitely” or “probably” vote for Miller if  he “created a new, well-paid position on his staff in order to hire an unqualified family member as a favor.”    Contrast that with the four in ten (39 percent) people who say the would “definitely” or “probably” votes for Miller if he was “unfaithful to his wife with another woman.”

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Photo Of The Day

© Abbas/Magnum Photos

© Abbas/Magnum Photos

 Marriage by Proxy

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Photo Of The Day

Photo: Noriko Hayashi

Photo: Noriko Hayashi

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The perils of equality in a marriage, much less sex, dud roots and boredom

Housework is gay, and here is the proof.

A study called “Egalitarianism, Housework and Sexual Frequency in Marriage,” which appeared in The American Sociological Review last year, surprised many, precisely because it went against the logical assumption that as marriages improve by becoming more equal, the sex in these marriages will improve, too. Instead, it found that when men did certain kinds of chores around the house, couples had less sex. Specifically, if men did all of what the researchers characterized as feminine chores like folding laundry, cooking or vacuuming — the kinds of things many women say they want their husbands to do — then couples had sex 1.5 fewer times per month than those with husbands who did what were considered masculine chores, like taking out the trash or fixing the car. It wasn’t just the frequency that was affected, either — at least for the wives. The more traditional the division of labor, meaning the greater the husband’s share of masculine chores compared with feminine ones, the greater his wife’s reported sexual satisfaction.

For all you blokes out there…housework…just don’t do it.

I first noticed this while doing a yearlong training in marriage therapy. I was seeing a couple who had been married for five years and wanted to work out some common kinks related to balancing their respective jobs, incomes and household responsibilities in, as the wife put it, “an equal way.” Over the course of treatment, the couple reported more connection, less friction and increased happiness. One day, though, when their issues seemed largely resolved and I suggested discussing an end to their therapy, the husband brought up a new concern: His wife now seemed less interested in having sex with him. He turned to her and asked why. Was she still attracted to him? After all, he wondered, why did she appear less interested now that their relationship seemed stronger in all the ways she wanted?  Read more »


Love or subjugation?

Have you seen this little lifestyle gem on Stuff today?

Check photo 2 – yep, the one with the 15 year old groom and the 14 year old bride with her head in a sack.

Ahmed Soboh, 15 and his bride Tala, 14, stand inside Tala's house which was damaged during an Israeli strike in 2009, during their wedding party in September, 2013.

Ahmed Soboh, 15 and his bride Tala, 14, stand inside Tala’s house which was damaged during an Israeli strike in 2009, during their wedding party in September, 2013.


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Love and Marriage may not go together like a horse and carriage

by blokeintakapuna

What if “Marriage” was not the auto-default setting for human relationships? Sure it seems to be the “ideal” most are conditioned to accept – even from a young age, but remaining “single” and capable/enabling of brief, intense liaison’s between consenting adults should also be a perfectly valid auto-default setting also – yet the constant narrative is only about “marriage & committed, monogamous relationships”.

In today’s world where many social norms are being out-paced by an ever-evolving and fast-moving social society, out-pacing traditional customs and tired, legislation also – maybe we should re-examine our auto-default setting regarding monogamy/marriage/cheating and divorce?

Generally as a society, we’re still very prudish – as evidenced on TV (and especially in USA) where naked breasts are hardly ever shown in bedroom scenes – let alone a naked female nipple – all whilst they simulate, but never show, actual fucking. Yet, rather than be completely “natural” about various human body parts for authenticity, our prudishness is allowed to flourish under the cloak of righteous sanctimony, as we the sheeple, follow traditional customs and social mores as dictated by someone else’s sense of proprietary and morals, preordained from many generations ago.   Read more »

A judge Colin Craig would like

Sensible advice really, pity WINZ doesn’t enforce it.

On The Huddle last night Josie Pagani went on about child poverty and I asked the question, that if people were poor why do they keep on breeding more children into poverty?

Couples should not have children if their relationship is not stable enough to merit getting married, a senior High Court judge said.

Sir Paul Coleridge said those couples whose relationship was stable enough to cope with the rigours of child rearing should marry.

But the judge, who is retiring from the bench next year after decades as a family lawyer and judge, said those who did not feel ready for children should not have them.  Read more »

Don’t say “I do”. Run. Run fast. Don’t look back. Go now!!!

Disappointing attitude from Little Johnny

Little Johnny looking a bit old on it

Little Johnny looking a bit old on it

Little Johnny is being a bit silly, in a fuddy-duddy kind of way.

MARRIAGE equality is “nonsense” and children should be raised in an “ordinary, orthodox, heterosexual marriage”, former Prime Minister John Howard says.

Mr Howard was in Adelaide today bolstering support for the Coalition , particularly in Hindmarsh, which is sitting on 50/50 in the polls.

He did a good old-fashioned shopping-mall walk, where he had a ridiculous number of selfies taken with strapping young lads.  Read more »

Gay marriage clears the House of Lords

It looks like the UK will be the 14th country to legalise same-sex marriage.

The Queen is expected to be asked to give her approval to the Bill – one of the most radical pieces of social legislation of her reign – by the end of this week.

It opens the way for the first legally recognised same-sex weddings to take place in England and Wales by next summer and brings the centuries-old understanding of marriage as being solely between a man and a woman to an end.

Peers gave their assent to the third reading of the Government’s same-sex marriage bill without a formal vote after a short debate in the Lords, also backing plans for a review of pension arrangements for gay couples.

Unless MPs object to the bill at the eleventh hour during a short Commons debate set to take place on Tuesday, it is expected to receive royal assent within days.  Read more »