Easy to say, harder to do

Stop your kids from committing suicide…

A visiting global expert on teenage health is giving New Zealand a glowing report card, with one exception ‚Äď our high youth suicide rate.

UN advisor Professor Robert Blum says fewer Kiwi teens are drink driving and smoking, but parents and teachers need to make them feel better connected.

Coasting through summer is a teenage rite of passage, but adolescence has its ups and downs.

Prof Blum is impressed with New Zealand’s approach, but says our high youth suicide rate is not good enough. Last year alone, 46 teenagers aged between 15 and 19 took their own lives. Read more »

Photo Of The Day

Photo by Galerie Bilderwelt/Getty Images. A photo titled 'Me As Al Jolson', from an album belonging to Hitler's companion Eva Braun (1912 - 1945), depicting her in blackface as American actor Al Jolson in 'The Jazz Singer', Munich, Germany, 1937. Braun, enjoyed private parties with friends and liked to watch American films such as 'Gone with the Wind'.

Photo by Galerie Bilderwelt/Getty Images.
A photo titled ‘Me As Al Jolson’, from an album belonging to Hitler’s companion Eva Braun (1912 – 1945), depicting her in blackface as American actor Al Jolson in ‘The Jazz Singer’, Munich, Germany, 1937. Braun, enjoyed private parties with friends and liked to watch American films such as ‘Gone with the Wind’.

Eva Braun

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Why would anyone tell someone else to kill themselves?

I’ve been at the receiving end of death threats and pressure to take my own life¬†myself.

People telling you to go top yourself, or expressing some hope you might do them a favour.

Not sure what kind of mindset people have  that deliberately put pressure on someone in the hope they will take their own lives.

Mike King, New Zealand’s other¬†mental health ambassador has been having his share too. Read more »

29 year old with brain cancer and will die on Nov 1

This story of a 29 year old woman with incurable brain cancer who doesn’t want to die in a debilitating awful manner.

She is incredibly brave, but choosing to die her way and not in a way limited by awful laws that prevent assisted suicide.

Having seen someone I love die slowly and horribly because of cancer I wish, really wish our country would change the law regarding euthanasia.

It disgusted me when Maryan Street pulled her bill from parliament after it was draw so as help the Labour party. Showed how much she actually cared.

I don’t know anyone who has watched someone die slowly and painfully who is opposed to euthanasia.

Brittany Maynard will die on November 1 – in her bedroom, with her favourite song playing and her mother and husband at her side.

The 29-year-old California woman began experiencing terrible headaches soon after her wedding.

She was diagnosed in January with a glioblastoma brain tumour and was later told by doctors she had six months to live.¬† Read more »

IRD are driving people to an early grave

There is some irony with the government looking to crack down on pay-day loan outfits, repo men, and dodgy lending practices where the debt continues even after repossession, while at the same time being in charge of a tax department that  drives people to take their own lives

Taxpayers, some facing crippling penalties, are increasingly threatening to harm themselves when dealing with the taxman.

According to official Inland Revenue figures, the number of its clients making “self-harm” threats in the past five years has nearly tripled.

There was a six-fold increase in offensive behaviour towards staff and the amount of money outstanding on child support rose by more than $1 million.

The department is enlisting Lifeline to look at how it deals with distressed callers and staff facing abuse.

The figures do show a positive – online compliments have more than tripled in five years.

Inland Revenue commissioner’s correspondence manager, Christina Goodall, said the leap in self-harm figures could be because of “increased awareness” among staff.

Could. ¬†On the other hand it could also be because of inhumane practices that slowly squeezes the oxygen out of people where they no longer see a future worth being part of. ¬† Once those penalties start to accumulate, things start to look pretty dire. ¬† Read more »


Depression and suicide: Sir John did us all a big favour

John Kirwan became the public face of depression, and we all owe him for it

If we can acknowledge that depression is not a weakness and suicide is not an option, we can change the world.

Those were Sir John Kirwan’s rousing words to a large audience gathered for the Westpac-sponsored ambassador’s depression and mental health talk in Alexandra yesterday.

Kirwan said attitudes to mental ill-health were changing, but not fast enough.

“Suicide is the end of an illness; it’s a tragedy and it leaves devastation in its wake.”

Knighted in 2012 for his services to mental health and rugby, the former All Black said his mission was to push for more government-funded campaigns, such as suicide prevention advertisements, to spread the message that death by suicide was unacceptable

Long time readers will know the Whaleoil crew have their own struggles with depression. ¬†For those of you who think we just need to snap out of it, be glad you don’t know what it is like. ¬†Once it grabs hold of your thinking, your brain starts to lie to you, and you are willing to listen. ¬† Read more »

Photo Of The Day

This photo from the Smile Club was published in a Dutch illustrated magazine Het Leven, in 1937.

This photo from the Smile Club was published in a Dutch illustrated magazine Het Leven, in 1937.

The Creepy Story of How Budapest Became a “City of Smiles” in the 1930s

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Depression 101 (RIP Robin Williams)

I lost friends and friendships to depression. ¬†People don’t understand it. ¬†They judge you like a normal person should be judged. ¬†They have no idea. ¬†It’s OK. ¬†It still hurts, but I have to live with it. ¬†Luckily I have never gone as deep as to consider taking my own life. ¬†If you’re reading this, and you have got to the point of thinking how you would do it, or worse, started putting some of those plans into place, then it is time for you to understand this: ¬†THIS ISN’T YOU. ¬†If you let it run its course, it can end like Robin Williams. ¬†But for most of us, there is a way back out.


Most of the Whaleoil Crew have lived or are living with some level of depression. ¬†Not sure why, but it makes us very tolerant of each other when the days get dark, and we are welcomed back without judgement when we find some light back in our days. ¬†I’ve lost more friends to suicide than I have through accidental death.

You are not alone. ¬†You are never alone. ¬†And the thoughts of despair, anger, self-harm and hopelessness aren’t actually real. ¬†They are not real in the sense that your brain chemicals are messing up the messages. ¬†Don’t ever believe you want to be dead. ¬†It’s not true. ¬†Don’t ever believe nobody cares. ¬†It is not true. ¬† But depression makes it seem that way.

Your thoughts start to lie to you.  It is terrible.

Whenever someone has taken their own life, apart from the deep ache I feel inside, there is this feeling of “if only I knew, I would have helped”. ¬†There are so many people around you now, that will have the same reaction. ¬†But you need to stop believing that you are worthless. ¬†Stop believing you don’t matter. ¬†Stop believing you won’t be missed. ¬†Stop believing the world is better off without you.

Your thoughts start to lie to you.  It is terrible.

Somewhere inside you, is the old you.  It can come out again.  It takes time.  It takes a large number of setbacks.  But it can be done.

Don’t. ¬†Give. ¬†Up.

Find it within yourself to reach out.  There are people standing by right now.  Talk to a stranger.  Talk to your GP.  Talk to a mate.  Talk to a mentor.  Talk to a coach.  Talk to a colleague.

Say something.

“Help me. ¬†I need help”


– Pete


Another one gone too soon: Robin Williams, 63, suspected suicide


Oscar-winning actor and comedian Robin Williams was found dead on [today]¬†from an apparent suicide at his home in Northern California, Marin County Sheriff’s Office said. He was 63.

The sheriff’s coroner’s division said it suspects the death was a suicide due to asphyxia, but the cause of death is still under investigation.

Last month, the “Good Will Hunting” actor, who has struggled with addiction in the past, entered a Minnesota rehabilitation center to help him maintain sobriety.

His representatives at the time said Williams was not using drugs or alcohol but had gone to the center to “fine-tune and focus” his sobriety after working a longer-than-usual schedule.



- Reuters

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