It’s always someone else’s fault, Ctd

Deborah Coddington continues exploring people’s propensity to blame their misfortune on others:

But we love to blame someone else for everything. Despite the road toll coming down we’re still among the worst drivers in the world and, unsurprisingly, the age group that refuses to improve is the 40 to 59 year bracket.

But it’s never the driver’s fault. Media reports said a car crossed the centre line near Wairoa killing four people in late January. Really? The car must have read Stephen King’s novel Christine.

And in Paraparaumu late last year critics blamed the Transport Agency for a man and woman’s death in a fatal accident because a planned median barrier had been delayed. But police said their car veered across the centre line. Inattentive driving caused their death, not the state of the highway.

Now we’re blaming the loss of school swimming pools for the rapid rise in drownings. But isn’t it our own stupidity and carelessness?

Talk to the lifeguards and they’ll tell you that idiots are swimming drunk, perhaps with all their clothes on, outside the flags. Or fishing off rocks but not wearing lifejackets.

People go fishing in overloaded tin cans, in ominous weather, with no lifejackets – or stow them under the hatch.

Parents once ignored everything else when bathing babies, or watching kids swimming in pools or at the beach, but these days it seems that phone calls, text messages or chatting with friends are more important. “I was only distracted for a minute” is enough for a little one to drown. In the past decade 89 preschoolers have drowned as a result of adult complacency.

Often these adults blame anyone but themselves. Yes, it’s tragic – dreadful – to lose a child, but if two toddlers wander off near the Gisborne river and their mothers don’t notice for 15 minutes it’s hardly the fault of the Gisborne District Council (as the family claimed) when 2-year-old Sukhraj Singh is drowned and his cousin is barely alive. Toddlers must be kept within grabbing distance.

Blame, blame, blame…everyone but themselves. Perhaps this is all simply a case of stupid is, as stupid does.


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  • Anonymous

    Our whole society is based on the socialisation of irresponsibility.


    The day we learn to take responsibility for ourselves and stop blaming others, I think that is when society stands a chance – will it ever happen? It would sure save alot of wasted dollars on ridiculous studies and surveys – which seems to be another good  way of shifting the responsibility

  • Anonymous

    The biggest obsacle to people taking some responsibility for the lives is the Labour party. As long as they continue indoctrinating the poor, blaming the rich for some idiot on the dole raping a woman, or saying people are fat because big corporations put a gun to their head and force them to eat junk food, then we’ll never improve as a culture.

  • Steve (North Shore)

    I blame the stupid people for being stupid. Prob the Govt’s fault they are stupid

  • Cadwallader

    A lack of personal responsibility seems to be a natural flow-on from the expectation that someone else will pay your bills…ie the taxpayer.

  • bristol

    Obituary of
    the late Mr. Common Sense:

    Today we mourn the
    passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who has been with us for many
    years. No one knows for sure how old he was, since his birth records were long
    ago lost in bureaucratic red tape. He will be remembered as having cultivated
    such valuable lessons as: Knowing when to come in out of the rain; why the
    early bird gets the worm; life isn’t always fair; and maybe it was my fault.

    Common Sense lived by
    simple, sound financial policies (don’t spend more than you can earn) and
    reliable strategies (adults, not children are in charge).

    His health began to
    deteriorate rapidly when well intentioned but overbearing regulations were set
    in place. Reports of a six year old boy charged with sexual harassment for
    kissing a classmate; teens suspended from school for using mouthwash after
    lunch; and a teacher fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened
    his condition. Common Sense lost ground when parents attacked teachers for
    doing the job that they themselves had failed to do in disciplining their
    unruly children.

    It declined even further
    when schools were required to get parental consent to administer sun lotion or
    an Aspirin to a student; but could not inform parents when a student became
    pregnant and wanted to have an abortion.

    Common Sense lost the
    will to live as churches became businesses; and criminals received better
    treatment than their victims. Common Sense took a beating when you couldn’t
    defend yourself from a burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you
    for assault.

    Common Sense finally
    gave up the will to live, after a woman failed to realise that a steaming cup
    of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in her lap, and was promptly awarded a
    huge settlement.

    Common Sense was
    preceded in death by his parents, Truth and Trust; his wife, Discretion; his
    daughter, Responsibility; and his son, Reason. He is survived by his four
    stepbrothers; I know My Rights, I Want It Now; Someone Else Is To Blame; and
    I’m A Victim.

    Not many attended his
    funeral because so few realised he was gone. If you remember him, pass this on.
    If not, join the majority and do nothing.

  • Dr Wang

    Would the media please note (in fairness to avoid confusing dumb-fucks like Coddington) in the future must refer to:

     ‘a car “which was being driven by a person” crossed the centre line near Wairoa killing four people in late January’

    …just in case poor old Debs gets all confused (“was the car driving itself?”). Better still – could you draw a little diagram for her, thanks.

  • kehua

    Missed the point again Dr??????

  • You lot are amazing.

    How you can relate a lack of personal responsibility and a propensity to blame others with socialism, politics, or class is beyond me.

    The millionaire is just as likely to cross a centre line, drive drunk, ignore their kids while replying to an email, etc etc ETC as a poor person.

    Gee – any chance to beat up on the less fortunate for you lot huh?!?!


    • Killjoy

      Totally understand where you’re coming from Jackie. And I would agree with you, if not for the fact that unfortunately you missed the point of this post.
      “The millionaire” would be less likely to blame everyone or anyone else for something that they did or failed to do to cause an incident as you describe.

      It is unfortunately those socialist or lower class types that tend to blame.