Dumped by a sponsored child

Stuff.co.nz

How would Bronwyn Pullar feel if she was dumped by a sponsored child? It cost Nick Smith his job, imagine if he had been a sponsored child:

 Is being dumped by your World Vision kid the ultimate rejection? If so, I can now add that notch to my belt. The announcement that my monthly $43 donation – to a 17-year-old Chilean boy named Jordan whom I’d taken on six years ago – was no longer needed came via a clinical form letter. Immediately my friends piped up like a chorus from an ancient Greek play, taking turns at being flabbergasted and accusatory. “Are you serious?” said one. “I didn’t think that was possible!”

“Was it because you were cheap?” queried another, wondering if I had been thrown over for someone offering a greater monthly stipend. And even more pointed: “What did you do to that kid?”

Pathetically little, actually. Aside from my monthly donation, our relationship was – I thought – tissue-thin, consisting of a few Christmas cards and perfunctory missives about what life is like in Australia scribbled hastily on notepad paper. So why was I so outraged when I got ditched? My brain churned with the sort of bilious thoughts that our minds must surely work overtime to keep tucked away. He was dumping me? Wasn’t I the one with the power? Shouldn’t he be grateful?

 

 


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  • Peter WIlson

    Actually, I’m not so certain Smith wasn’t “sponsored” in some way. After all, if he’s prepared to do favours as a cabinet minister, who knows whose pocket he might be in.

    (Makes as much sense as anything else on the subject!)

  • Cindy10101

    Having sponsored several Indonesian children, I had one that was removed from me after some 6 years. The reason being, that at 16 or 17 they are considered adults and need to make way for younger children who need help. I didnt feel rejected at all…….. in fact I was glad that the time had come for the young girl I was sponsoring to gain her independence and move on in life. Perhaps this may have been the reason in this case too.

    • Peter Wilson

      Reading between the lines, it would be the PC view that these kids need to connect with their own culture, and not be sullied by outsiders. Along similar lines to the view that 3rd world children shouldn’t be adopted to westerners, as it would take them away from their roots blah blah blah.

      I can understand the point, but a little honesty in the first place would be good. Just give the money as a donation, with no personal connection. Of course, it’s a little harder to pull on the heartstrings that way.

  • Parrien

    I have been sponsoring a number of kids over the years. They regularly reach an age where they no longer “need” the support, but there is always another in the wings.

    I have never felt the need to make a personal contact with the sponsored children – they have their life and I have mine, and I doubt they really need to know about my life. I am simply happy to know I am making a positive difference.

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