What is it with Pams and sex?

WA Today

There is something about women called Pam and sex. This one is the other Pam, not the bogan one who failed at starting a brothel for women.

The article also has the worst headline ever, “Fifty Shades of Grey giving bondage a bad name”…Bondage has never had a good name:

The bestselling Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy by E.L. James has reportedly already sold up to 20 million copies worldwide. Having read the three novels in one sitting, I very much doubt it is the sex that did it. I found it boring, repetitive, and leads women to aspire to undesirable – and frankly unattainable – goals, such as simultaneous orgasm, which occurs between the protagonists most of the time.

But, most annoyingly, the story demonises BDSM – the term for the erotic style comprising bondage, domination, and sado-masochism – and those who enjoy it. The male protagonist, Christian Grey, is portrayed as a cold-hearted sexual predator with a dungeon (that word has been wisely swapped for ‘‘playroom’’), full of scary sex toys. Worst of all is the implication that his particular erotic style has developed because he is psychologically ‘‘sick’’.

Frankly, in BDSM terms, Grey is a lightweight.  Even novices, however, would know that his use of cable ties is a very bad idea (to avoid nerve-damage and scarring, soft, thick rope is de rigueur).

Grey’s lack of competency in his chosen erotic arena is most apparent, though, in the way he fails to assess his potential new submissive’s naivety. Experienced BDSM practitioners are acutely aware of the gulf between cognoscenti and others, and would not dream of terrifying a novice by bringing up such advanced techniques as fire, electricity and gynaecological play.


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