Is making your kid a fatty child abuse?


Is making your kid a fatty child abuse?

Juliet Hartley-Brewer at The Telegraph certainly thinks so as she lambasts “lazy, selfish parents would rather let their child shovel sweets into their gob than take them to the park.”

If you are the parent of a fat child, you are a bad parent.

Did everyone get that? Because it really is very simple: if your child is overweight then that is your fault because you are not doing your job as a parent properly.

If force feeding your child into obesity and ill health, a life on diabetes medication and far higher risks of cancer, heart disease, infertility and an early death isn’t child abuse, then what on earth is it?

That is the message that needs to go out, as starkly as that, in letters to every parent of every overweight or obese child in the country tomorrow.

And, boy, will that be a lot of letters. Because we are living in the middle of an obesity epidemic, with children arriving on their first day at primary school with bellies like sumo wrestlers – and they are getting fatter by the day.

One-in-five-children in reception last year were found to be either overweight or obese, while a tenth were in the obese category. By Year six, 34 per cent of children were either overweight or obese, while 19 per cent were obese.

That is a lot of fat kids who will one day become a lot of fat adults, most of whom will have numerous long-term health problems, costing the NHS a fortune, and a shorter life span than they have the right to.

Yet today the Royal Society for Public Health has called for schools to stop sending out so-called “fat letters” to the parents of overweight children because apparently they are not having any effect on tackling obesity.

Sometimes it takes the cold hard truth to sort things out. Unfortunately in our politically correct society we aren’t allowed to call fat bastards fat bastards even when they are fat bastards.

The Royal Society’s chief executive Shirley Cramer called for the letters to be “seen as the beginning of a dialogue with parents, not simply flagging whether their child is obese” because “parents also need to be provided with support”.

Well, only if that dialogue begins with the parents being told the harsh truth: you are failing your child.

But maybe the letters are only failing to do their job because they don’t tell parents the real truth.

The message seems to be that the parents who overfeed their kids are just too stupid or ignorant to do a better job and need to be pitied, educated and helped.

As warm and fuzzy as that argument sounds, it has only one fault: it is a load of complete nonsense.

Far too many kids are overweight and even dangerously obese these days and they’re not managing it on their own. Their parents are 100 per cent to blame for what goes into their mouths – and indeed how much they exercise their growing bodies.

But let’s stop all this namby-pamby, patronising rubbish about how these parents don’t know any better and are just as much victims themselves. They’re not victims. They are child abusers, in the same way that any parent who deliberately and knowingly harms the health of their child is an abuser.

I’m liking the cut of this sheila’s jib.

We’ve all heard the claims trotted out that the parents don’t know how to cook healthy meals, or indeed cook at all, or how they can’t afford to feed their children anything but take-aways, or they don’t have the time, or whichever excuse is fashionable that week.

The fact of the matter is that you would have to be the most obtuse person in the entire country not to know that a diet of chips, fizzy drinks and Haribo is not healthy for your child.

Even if you only watched soap operas and reality TV shows or just read Heat magazine, you would know these things. And a healthy meal of fish fingers, pasta and frozen peas is as cheap and quick as any fast food take-away.

So why do so many parents make their kids fat? Because they are, to put it bluntly, selfish and lazy.

Because they would rather give their kids quick rubbish than go to any effort to give them a healthy meal. Because they would rather have an easy life and say Yes to every whimsical demand from a five-year-old for chocolate for breakfast than say No and face the consequences.

Because they would rather leave their child to spend eight hours on an Xbox than go to the effort of taking them out to the park. Because they would prefer to shove sweets into their child’s mouth than have to bother listening to them when they’d rather be watching TV or playing on their iPhone.

Because they prefer to give their children what they want instead of what their children need. And because, most importantly, they care more about their own selfish wants right now than their own child’s needs in the long term.

Neglect and child abuse dressed up in parental indulgence.


-The Telegraph

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