What does concealed depression look like?

In my experience, not everyone who has depression knows that they have depression. I didn’t know that I had it until a doctor told me that my physical symptoms were caused by my mind. It was a shock but also a relief to understand what was happening. It was only then that I was able to learn how to manage my depression.

[…] People with concealed depression are battling demons within themselves all on their own. They are not sharing their struggles and do not want to burden those around them.

[…] The following 15 habits are some of the most common I have noticed in people dealing with concealed depression.

1. They are often quite talented and very expressive.

A lot of famous people have suffered from mental illnesses, and this suffering gives them deeper emotions. If you really think about it, this is in some form a source to their greatness. While we cannot always see it, their struggles are often reflected in their works. These people are able to bring something beautiful out of the darkness that consumes them.

If you suffer from depression grab this silver lining with both hands. You are clearly very clever just like me. Welcome to the Clever club.

2. They tend to search for purpose.

We all need a purpose in this life. We want to be sure that we are in some form doing meaningful things. People suffering from hidden depression are not exempt from this. They too want to know the reason for their existence. They are much more susceptible to feeling things like inadequacy and anxiety which leaves them searching for something they can never seem to achieve in their own minds.

3. Sometimes they make muted cries for help.

Sometimes we all need help. When we are not expecting someone to feel weak or to be down in the dumps, we don’t see their cries for help. However, if you notice their cries and can help them in any way, you are creating a very close and trust filled bond with them.

4. They interpret substances differently.

Someone who is dealing with depression usually knows what it is they can take to ease their pain in a sense. They know that caffeine and sugar will raise their mood and that some medicines can help them. They actually have to put a lot of effort into feeling better, unlike most people.[…]

5. They often have a very involved perception of life and death.

People suffering from depression often face their own mortality in moments of despair and seek answers to life’s deepest questions. They tend to shift from one terrible mindset into another. Sure, not all depressed people deal with suicidal thoughts, but some do.

6. They have strange eating habits.

People with depression may not be able to eat much or at all when they are at their worst. That being said some of them may eat more when at their worst. It varies from person to person.

When my depression is controlling me I lose weight rapidly.

7. They have abnormal sleeping habits.

People with depression will often sleep for what seems like or may literally be days. Sleep at times can be impossible while other times could be the only thing left that the person can do. When a person is depressed they are dealing with a state of helplessness that will rock their world.

When I was at my worst I didn’t want to get out of bed but currently, my issue is that while I can influence my conscious self to be good during the day my subconscious denies me deep sleep and wakes me up really early every morning. I am really tired every single day and that is my biggest battle. I miss the energy I used to have when I woke up in the morning.

8. They have abandonment issues usually.

If you have dealt with abandonment then you know how terrible it can be. When someone walks out of your life it can be a devastating, but this impacts those with depression much more than other people. It causes them to be more and more secretive about their feelings and creates a fear within them of being abandoned by their loved ones.

9. They are professionals at coming up with ‘cover-up’ stories.

They are able to come up with believable elaborate excuses for the things they are going through. Like if they skip an appointment or don’t return your calls for days. They can easily change the subject when things like this come up and turn the attention away from their pain.

10. They might have habitual remedies.

There are several different lifestyle changes a person can make as an attempt to ease their minds. For instance, these people may do things like exercise, listen to music, go walking, and so forth.

11. They are always making efforts to seem happy.

People suffering from depression learn to fake moods. They will often come off as happy and normal on the outside. When they let their inner struggles appear on the outside they feel as if they are bringing others down.

I relate to this one. I am very aware of how depression affects those you live with as when Cam had severe depression it was like walking in glue being around him. When I am feeling depressed I try to act happy in order to minimise the impact on others.

12. They seek love and acceptance.

People with hidden depression are not hiding their depression because they want to be dishonest, they are just working to protect their hearts. These people want to be loved and accepted just like everyone else.

13. They have trouble shutting off their brains.

These people process everything going on in their lives at a fast speed. They over analyze the good and the bad making everything impact them much deeper. Their brains are like sponges absorbing everything that comes their way.

This is 100% true for my experience of depression. I can literally make myself physically ill if I allow myself to think too much about problems. I have to mentally put things away in a box and lock it because once my mind starts working out all the angles it will never stop. With all the court cases we are dealing with currently you can imagine how many boxes I currently have locked up and thrown down an imaginary well.

14. They hurt when other people hurt.

When other people are suffering it brings them down to their worst points. This sort of thing often triggers their emotional pain and can be crippling.

This is so true. I have had to work hard at not taking on other people’s problems emotionally. I can support them but I have to be very careful to not worry on their behalf.

15. They always think of the worst-case scenarios.

While this is very stressful it can be beneficial from time to time. A high intelligence seems to be linked with depression, and they are able to respond to anything that comes their way. This makes them good problem solvers for the most part.

I always have plan A B C and D for when things go wrong. As long as I have well thought out plans for dealing with the worst case scenarios I can cope.

If you or someone you care about is suffering from concealed depression either get help or offer a helping hand. Fighting this alone is not easy or productive. The world can be a wonderful place if you get the help you need nothing can stand in your way. You are not a burden to others and the people who love and care about you want to help you, let them.

-awarenessact.com

 

 


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