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Speakers’ Corner in Auckland

Something unusual happened this last fortnight; I was asked to officiate at two funerals in the space of 24 hours. I was asked, in the first instance, because the family had seen me carry proceedings at a previous funeral and assumed I was a celebrant (which I am not.) It was humbling to be thought of that way, but I had to turn them down. The second was much more personal; the mother of a very close friend, a beautiful woman whom I admired.

She died on Monday morning last and at a meeting to discuss funeral arrangements on Monday evening I was a little disappointed when I asked if there should be a religious component to the service and the family said, “No.”

Most women of her era, she was 91, even if not overtly religious would feel, in my opinion, that something devotional should be said at their life’s end; even if only to re-balance their chances of being admitted past the Pearly Gates. I said, “what about ‘The Lord’s Prayer’?” and the family agreed that it might be a good idea.

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Speakers’ corner: Why I love the Christian complementarian view of gender roles

Speakers’ Corner in Auckland

I am a mum, in my late twenties, of three young children. Here is why I love Christian gender roles in home and family and why I think more people my age need to know about the stability, sense and benefits they bring.

A Christian complementarian view could be described as the belief that men and women have equal value and dignity (as they were both made in God’s image) but that they are different in function and role (as evidenced by the description of Eve being Adam’s ‘necessary ally’ or ‘helper.’ ‘Helper’ also is a term for describing the Creator God).

Here are the reasons why I love these beliefs and how they work out in my life.

It?s reality.

There are profound differences between men and women: biological, social, mental and physical. Gender is not only a social construct; there are innate sources (such as the fact that the DNA of every last cell in your body is either XX or XY). Gender reassignment surgery will not change your basic DNA.

Men and women, in general, communicate differently, have different emotional profiles and are driven by different needs.

You do yourself a disservice to pretend these don’t exist or to ignore them when you are trying to organise your life and relationships. You need to know the differences between men and women if you want to be able to communicate and have a healthy relationship with someone of the opposite sex. Knowing there are gender differences helps me communicate with my husband and manage the needs of my daughters and sons.

My generation has been sold the lie that equality between men and women means that they look and act basically the same.

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