Margaret Slater

In Memoriam – Mum

Dad, John Key and Mum

Two years ago, at the time of this post, 0730 in the morning, Mum passed away after a one year battle with cancer.

She was my mother, my friend, my counsel, a wise head to turn to when things were tough. We spoke nearly every day, and she gave me some of my best ideas on the blog and in politics.

No day passes without me thinking about her and what we have lost.

This is what I wrote that terrible day when Dad, Claire and I returned from the hospice in shock.

I have been dreading writing this post for months now. I have put it off and put it off. Mum would have wagged her finger at me and said what you put off today you just have to do tomorrow…and so it has come to pass.

At 0720 this morning my beautiful mother passed away holding Dad’s hand.

She found out a year ago that she had cancer and she set about planning what remained of her life. In February she was told she had at best 12 weeks left to live and in her usual way she just said she would see about that. As is usual she was right about that.    Read more »

In Memoriam – Mum

Dad and Mum visiting John Key on her last visit to Wellington

A year ago today my Mum passed away. I still miss her terribly.

She was my mother, my friend, my counsel, a wise head to turn to when things were tough. We spoke nearly every day, and she gave me some of my best ideas on the blog and in politics.

No day passes without me thinking about her and what we have lost.

This is what I wrote that terrible day when Dad, Claire and I returned from the hospice in shock.  Read more »

Calling Angels

Today would have been Mum’s 67th birthday.

This post is for my family.

I miss my Mum…and I’m not too tough to admit it.

I am not going to be around much on the blog today.

Whale Week What Was

682zoomWe started our Saturday by paying our respects to Norman Schwarzkopf Jr., the hard-charging US Army general whose forces smashed the Iraqi army in the 1991 Gulf War.  He died aged 78.  At The Standard 2012 Worst Political Blog Mike Smith is told some home truths about long term grass-roots Labour families heading for the Greens.  A quick vid on how to put out a boat fire the Kiwi way is next, followed by a vote for Best Minister.  The winner, at 52%, is Judith Collins.  The Whale Week That Was summarised all the stories this blog covered in the previous seven days.  A quite active Saturday Debate (for the time of year especially) led a post calling for nominations for Best Political Blog.  Those who see WOBH as any sort of threat to them (and those that don’t too), should take heed of this Malcolm Tucker quote: “marshal all the media forces of Darkness to hound them to an assisted suicide”.  A CNN piece showing Teachers in Utah taking a class on gun use shows some common sense around the gun debate.  A reader has taken yesterday’s US Fiscal Cliff graphic and created one for New Zealand – great work.  As Cameron Slater predicted from the outset, the Aussie Hoax DJs will not face charges.  The NZ Herald continues to amuse – this time a car crashed into a poll.  The blog then introduces us to two sexy taxidermists showing you don’t have to look like a front row forward to deal with dead animals.  And you’d think we’re picking on an incompetent NZ Herald, and you would be right.  This time they have Jesse Ryder beating himself at Eden Park in Wellington.  Then a hilarious story about a Queensland woman who fell into the longdrop and was there for two hours before being discovered by her husband.   Turns out that during the Falklands War the French tried to send missiles to Argentinia behind Margaret Thatcher‘s back.  Commerce first eh?  The last post of the day highlights a report of a man holding up a Countdown Supermarket with a hammer.  Our readers get fired up about the idea of hammer banning.

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It was the best of years and the worst of years

This year has been pretty tumultuous. But as it draws to a close I can say it has definitely been the worst of years and the best of years.

Most of the year has been spent building on successes of past years….and also quietly supporting Mum as she got more and more tired, and in September sicker and sicker.

On the day that Mum died, Dad said to me that night before we turned in that this year has been the worst year of his life…I stopped and thought…and yes I couldn’t think of a worse year. He had lost his life partner and I had lost my Mum…it doesn’t get much worse than that. Even in my darkest days of depression I have never felt as awful as I did that day.

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For Dad

Thinking of you today Dad.

Love you.

What a day

I thought today would be the second worst day of my life. But it wasn’t.

Sure we laughed, and we cried, but mostly we shared the wonderful life and legacy that my mother created for her and her family.

The funeral went exactly as planned by Mum, right down to the timing.

Many thanks to the hundreds of friends and family who attended and thanks to those who couldn’t be there but sent message of support. It was wonderful to see so many people honour Mum.

For now I am very tired…it has been a tough, tough year. I am so very grateful to those who have assisted me over this year, you all know who you are.

Amazing Grace

Mum wanted to be piped from the Church to Amazing Grace. She certainly had that… going to miss you Mum:

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How Great Thou Art

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When I Survey the Wondrous Cross

Mum chose this hymn for her funeral, which has just started:

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