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Mary, Officer Paul and Laura.

Mary, Officer Paul and Laura.

How to Bring a Dead Man to Justice

We set out to dance on the grave of the grandfather who molested us as children. We never got there, but what happened instead changed our lives

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you”?

Maya Angelou

When Mary Lovely and her cousin Laura Parrott-Perry were two little girls. They were both sexually abused by their grandfather from the time Mary was eight until she was fourteen and Laura was seven until she was nine.

Mary didn?t talk about it for 35 years.

She remembers being in the kitchen as a youngster around twelve and overhearing her parents talking with Laura?s dad.? In the midst of a bitter divorce, he was angry because Laura had told her mother she had been molested by her grandfather. Her mother believed her. He didn?t.

It was the first time Mary spoke up. ?I tried to communicate to my uncle and my parents that he had done that to me too, but the conversation didn?t go as I had thought it would,? she said. ?They asked me why I hadn?t told them before and then they were silent. My story was buttoned up, never mentioned again and that was the end of it. Why wouldn?t they listen to me? I thought it was because I was bad.?

The two cousins were kept apart from each other from then on. Laura never had to see that side of the family again. Mary continued to suffer the abuse until she was 14. Both said their grandfather had stolen the child within them and referred to themselves as ?ancient ruins? before they were ten.

?As abuse victims, we all continue to carry this dark, dark shame,? said Laura. ?We don?t want anyone to know about it. We are told it is ?unspeakable.?? So, you don?t speak about it and you carry it around in this little pocket in your heart and it infects everything. You leave it alone and it?s toxic.?

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The Return of the Sun "Extremely heavy precipitation of rime crystals during the night, our rigging being heavily encrusted some of the ropes being over 3" in diameter, but the effect is beautiful" Hurley Diary. Shackleton aimed to make the first-ever land crossing of the Antarctic continent, but his ship became trapped, then crushed and sunk, by ice before the team could reach their starting point for the trek. Imperial Trans-Antarctic Expedition, 1914-17, led by Ernest Shackleton. (Photo by Frank Hurley/Scott Polar Research Institute, University of Cambridge/Getty Images)

The Return of the Sun “Extremely heavy precipitation of rime crystals during the night, our rigging being heavily encrusted some of the ropes being over 3″ in diameter, but the effect is beautiful”. ?Photo by Frank Hurley/Scott Polar Research Institute, University of Cambridge/Getty Images.

The Endurance

Survival Against the Greatest Odds

When Antarctica?s hulking glacial landmass?icy and inhospitable?was spotted by 18th century British Captain James Cook, he remarked:

?I make bold to declare that the world will derive no benefit from it.?

?That proclamation did not ward away future journeys, though.

One hundred years ago, one of the most astounding tales of survival began aboard a small wooden ship with 28 men trapped in Antarctic ice.

A year and a half later, in August 1916, the details of Sir Ernest Shackleton?s ordeal emerged ? a story of a spectacular, yet triumphant, failure.

For the second time, Shackleton had failed to achieve his goal of reaching the South Pole. Yet, with his ship crushed, his men camped on ice floes and then marooned on a barren island, he managed to sail 800 nautical miles (1,475 kilometres) in a small boat, in winter, to get help. Not a single life was lost, cementing his reputation as a man of boundless courage and one of the greatest leaders of all time.

Shackleton set sail on Aug. 1, 1914, the day England declared war on Germany. The British Admiralty let him go, expecting the war to be over by Christmas. When Shackleton returned, the world no longer cared about gentlemen adventurers and their polar dalliances. It seemed trivial when set against death on an unimaginable scale on the battlefields of Europe.

Shackleton was naturally gifted in the traits that make leaders. Much of it for him was instinct.

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