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Mary, Officer Paul and Laura.

Mary, Officer Paul and Laura.

How to Bring a Dead Man to Justice

We set out to dance on the grave of the grandfather who molested us as children. We never got there, but what happened instead changed our lives

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you”?

Maya Angelou

When Mary Lovely and her cousin Laura Parrott-Perry were two little girls. They were both sexually abused by their grandfather from the time Mary was eight until she was fourteen and Laura was seven until she was nine.

Mary didn?t talk about it for 35 years.

She remembers being in the kitchen as a youngster around twelve and overhearing her parents talking with Laura?s dad.? In the midst of a bitter divorce, he was angry because Laura had told her mother she had been molested by her grandfather. Her mother believed her. He didn?t.

It was the first time Mary spoke up. ?I tried to communicate to my uncle and my parents that he had done that to me too, but the conversation didn?t go as I had thought it would,? she said. ?They asked me why I hadn?t told them before and then they were silent. My story was buttoned up, never mentioned again and that was the end of it. Why wouldn?t they listen to me? I thought it was because I was bad.?

The two cousins were kept apart from each other from then on. Laura never had to see that side of the family again. Mary continued to suffer the abuse until she was 14. Both said their grandfather had stolen the child within them and referred to themselves as ?ancient ruins? before they were ten.

?As abuse victims, we all continue to carry this dark, dark shame,? said Laura. ?We don?t want anyone to know about it. We are told it is ?unspeakable.?? So, you don?t speak about it and you carry it around in this little pocket in your heart and it infects everything. You leave it alone and it?s toxic.?

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Hit jobs not just political

Here at Whaleoil we’re quite versed at recognising a political hit job. ?Hey, we may have written one or two ourselves occasionally. ?But it is fun to see one so blatant in sport.

Eric Watson is putting the boot into 50% Warriors co-owner Sir Owen Glenn. ?He wants Glenn out, but he has commercial problems to solve. ?Part of the solution is to make Glenn look like an ogre.

Sir Owen Glenn’s public outburst has rocked the Warriors this week, but it is not the first time his conduct as owner has raised eyebrows at the club.

Sources told the?Herald on Sunday?that Sir Owen, who started a war of words this week with co-owner Eric Watson and senior club officials over his disquiet at the way former coach Matthew Elliott was sacked, has been a polarising figure at the club.

His partnership with Watson was meant to take the Warriors to the next level, and Sir Owen was passionate about plans for a rugby league academy, but several incidents have caused consternation, sources said.

Last year, Sir Owen invited all of the players’ wives and girlfriends, and some female Warriors staff, on a cruise around Auckland Harbour on his superyacht Ubiquitous.

They were attended by several mini-skirted waitresses and at one point everyone played charades. After the games, prizes were given out, including fur handcuffs and g-strings.

“It was all a bit awkward. I know a lot of us felt a bit uncomfortable and we didn’t think it was appropriate,” said a player’s partner.

There you go. ?The dirt file on Glenn is open.

“Sources” tell the Herald… wink wink nudge nudge ? Read more »

Sunday General Debate

Good morning and welcome to the Sunday General Debate. Plenty happened this week in NZ and around the world: a new Pope was elected, the Warriors lost….again, Shane Jones gets to sit a bit closer to Shearer, and it’s still not raining. The Gay Marriage Bill passed its second reading, and the Falkland Islanders gave the Argies the big finger.


Pope Francis celebrates by doing Gangnam Style.

Sports Talk: Cricket, NRL

Cricket: The second Test between the Blacks Caps and England starts at the Basin Reserve today, and hopefully this time it won’t be the Barmy Army providing the only entertainment after an inconclusive result in Dunedin last week. An unchanged side will take the field:

New Zealand😕Peter Fulton, Hamish Rutherford, Kane Williamson, Ross Taylor, Dean Brownlie, Brendon McCullum (captain), BJ Watling, Tim Southee, Bruce Martin, Neil Wagner, Trent Boult.

England are also likely to name an unchanged side. Captain Brendon McCallum said if they win the toss they would likely to bowl first in order to gain an advantage in the first day. Read more »

Cartoon of the Day

Talk about over qualified!

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The woman applying for a job in a lemon orchard in Keri Keri seemed to be far too qualified for?the job; given her arts and education degrees from Auckland University and her jobs as a social worker and school teacher.

The foreman frowned and said,

“I have to ask you this: Have you had any actual experience in picking lemons?”

“Well, as a matter of fact, I have!” she replied.

“I’ve been divorced three times, owned two Lada’s, supported the Warriors, the Blues and the Black Caps and I voted for Len Brown.”



The Warriors lost.